Everything Happens for Good

Recently I had a breakup. An official breakup, after an official engagement. We had a so-called relationship of 3 months. But when everyone got this news, no one said that bad has happened as everyone wanted me to be strong and doesn’t get depressed or something. Everyone had one dialogue in common – “Everything happens for good.” Now read the below statements, those are the statements people will generally say depending upon the situation
- Situation 1 – Breakup before Engagement - Thank god things got cleared before engagement. After engagement things get bad to find another relationship.
- Situation 2 – Breakup after Engagement before marriage – Thank god it happened now before marriage. After marriage, things get complicated in an official way as to divorce and legal matters.
- Situation 3 – after marriage before kids –Thank god it happened now. After having kids, things get more complicated.”
- And the list continues….
One more tragedy happened recently, my dad met an accident. Dialogues were – “Everything happens for good. In this case, dialogues would have been
- Situation 1 – Only bike gets damaged - Thank god the only bike got damaged and nothing happened to you.
- Situation 2 – Basic injuries – Thank god you got only basic and not fracture or something.
- Situation 3 – Only hand or leg get fractured – Thank god for only leg injury which can be repaired. No permanent disability is there
- Situation 4 – Permanent injury to head or leg - Thank god only injury to the leg. Head injury is the worst.
- Situation 5 – Injury to the head or serious injury but the daughter who was accompanying did not get hurt - Thank god only you got injured and not your daughter who was with you.
- And the things go on….. whatever might happen, we can always say – Thank god only…… happened and not……
Whenever a thing happens, there are always chances of something better than that to get happened or something worse than that to get happened. It's you who need to decide, what you want to focus on.
If you get a century, you can be happy about that or still regret that you have not done the double century. (Understand the difference between regret for a double century and starving for a double century in the second match).
When something good happens, you should thank God (Destiny, spirit, or whatever you believe in) that it happened and you are grateful for it. Along with it, you should be ready to go to step 2 of the good things. But If you feel bad or depressed for not having some other thing, that will change your focus and you won’t go-ahead to step 2 but will always look at step 1 you missed.
At the same time, if something bad happens, your approach should be on getting a step ahead and not down. Thanking God for not getting worst into it will help you to focus on the positive thing to work on.
Certainly, a breakup is a bad thing, getting injured really hurts. But you need to understand that it has happened and now you need to move ahead. So, when you say, “Everything happens for good” – you get support and hope I guess. God is still with you. Something good has happened and now I should be prepared for better things ahead.
As you learn from the lessons and act wisely, certainly good things happen, and lead a better life. Things would happen. Depends on how you take it, how you lead it. With happiness, you can strive for better and with grudge or sadness, you will not progress in life. That’s why it is said – “Everything happens for good.”